Recently I had a front row seat to what good leadership looks like. My 11-year-old-daughter, Miss O, is a new 6th grader at a middle school with 850 kids total for 6th, 7th and 8th grades.
She came home one day and told me that she was late to her 5th period science class. Apparently, as she leaves lunch to walk to class, she often encounters a girl who has spilled out a game to play with. Miss O stops to help her put it back in the box.
But on the day in question, the girl had spilled out 4 games so there were hundreds of cards that needed to be sorted out. Miss O stopped to help. Then the girl’s educational assistant came by, asked if Miss O would continue while she and the girl went off to class.
Right as Miss O was finishing, her 5th period class walked by on the way to picture day so Miss O joined the line.
When the school notified me that Miss O was absent from 5th period, I told them the story and clarified she was late but not absent. The attendance person wrote me back to let me know it was all taken care of.
End of story, right? The system worked as it should and all was fine.
Except Miss O came home from school the next day with the kicker. When she stopped again to help the girl at the end of lunch, the principal showed up to thank her, gave her some candy and a school pin, and walked her to 5th period so she wouldn’t be marked late.
Amazing. In a school with 850 students, the attendance person must have mentioned to the principal the story of this one girl stopping to help someone. And then he made a note of it to stop and recognize her. She had chosen to do this all on her own so it wasn’t about being noticed. But what the principal did boosted her natural inclination to help enormously. It’s one thank you that is likely to have a ripple effect through her years.
I was recently reading, Unleash Your Humanity by Yasmine Sherif. Yasmine is a human-rights lawyer that has worked within the UN system for more than 30 years. She writes about what she’s learned about leadership,
“I have learned that humanity rises less through obligation and more through willingness. Leadership is not about becoming perfect. It is about being present and showing up with awareness. Humanity can rise, not from obligation but from desire and joy. We do not need to search the light, we can be the light—not flawless, but steadfast.” – Yasmine Sherif in Unleash Your Humanity
Like the principal at my daughter’s school, showing up with awareness matters. It spreads something viral – inspiration and kindness.
P.S. I was lucky enough to interview Yasmine Sherif about her book and what she’s learned about how we can all be the light. The Life of Try podcast with Yasmine will release on Wednesday, 10/21 and Yasmine’s passion and energy are infectious! Please subscribe so you don’t miss it!
P.P.S. After hearing about what the principal had done, I emailed the superintendent of Seattle Public Schools to tell him the story. He responded about 10 minutes later and copied the principal, the principal’s boss, and the HR department. The ripples of goodness keep echoing on.
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This is not only a very good story but an excellent example of what real leadership is. Bravo to the school as well for how it was handled, and a visit from the principal! Bravo to you for writing the superintendant. xo
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Thank you, Darlene! You said it perfectly!
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Way to go, Miss O! Not surprised by her actions and very delighted she’s now in the principal’s radar. An excellent start to middle school, Wynne. Look forward to your podcast with Yasmine!
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Thank you, Ab! I’m grateful that the bigger pond has diluted her inclinations! Hope you all are having a great fall!
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Excellent work by the principal. A good leader not only sets a good direction and makes good decisions but sets a good example in the apparently small things. When I watch my TV I see leaders who would do well to learn that lesson.
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“the apparently small things.” Love the way you said that, Malcolm. Exactly! The small things that are really the big things! Thanks for the great comment!
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That is so nice of the principal. I think rewarding kids for good behaviour early on really does make a difference and encourages them to continue doing helpful things.
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I couldn’t agree more, Pooja! Thanks for the lovely comment!
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Always a pleasure!
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That Miss O’s responsible compassion for others and apparently has skipped ‘childhood adulting’ is a testimony to her parenting by someone who took time to write a note acknowledging another’s small act of kindness … a beautiful ‘Pay it Forward’ story. Thanks Wynne.
Keep Looking Up ^ … His Best is Yet to Come!
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Ah, Fred. Thank you so much! What a kind and encouraging note — as always, from you who encourages so many!
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What a fantastic story Wynne, where everyone did the right thing! Miss O is a great girl, and the quote is amazing. I’ll try to listen to the podcast on Wednesday.
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I love your take on this — where everyone did the right thing. Yes!! Thanks, Cristiana!
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I love the story and the ripples that spread. Miss O has done a wonderful thing. But, I’m confused. Has the young girl accidentally spilled cards, or gotten lost in the moment? Is there a reason that she repeatedly cannot manage what’s there? Because, my thoughts went straight to trying to figure out how to help this girl so that she doesn’t routinely have the same problem. Like, come up with a plan or give the girl skills to help solve the problem on the front end so that she does not have to scramble every time. It might be helpful to her in the long run. I know, not the point of your message, but I couldn’t help it.
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You are a problem solver, Gwen. The girl is developmentally disabled. I suspect she pours out the games in order to manage the chaos of lunch with 425 other students. With that said, usually it’s just one.
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What a wonderful and heartfelt story Wynne. I like Jasmine’s definition of leadership which the principal demonstrated so well. We need a lot more leaders like that, and kind souls like Miss O.
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We do need a lot more leaders like that – you are right on, Brad! Thank you for your lovely comment!
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So heartwarming Wynne.
Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you, Maggie! I appreciate your kind words.
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Miss O is such a sweet soul, and I’m so glad the principal made a point to acknowledge and celebrate her good deed. I love, especially, that the encounter boosted her natural inclination to help others. We need so much more of that in the world! Big Kudos to a young lady with such a Big Heart!! 💖
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Isn’t that boost a great outcome?! Thank you, Erin!
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Would’ve been nice if the principal slipped her a crisp, new $20 bill too, but we’ll take what we can get. Good job raising that one, mom!
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Funny that you say that — because Miss O heard me tell the story and I said that the principal gave her a school. pin. She piped in to correct, “CANDY and a pin.” I think the former being the more important of the two!
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Here’s to Miss O and those who recognized her kindness. May we all do as well as she does and her school system.
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Ah, what a lovely wish. Yes, may we all!
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So much to love here…and I especially see the role you played, Wynne. Taking the time to offer an accolade. Speaking from some firsthand experience, phone calls from parents offering praise to anyone in an admin role? Such a gift. Ripples of goodness? Yes, yes, yes! 💝💝💝
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I love the way you put it, my dear friend!! Those folks in admin roles are working hard!
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Xo! 😘
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Miss O has such a genuinely golden heart, and it is so wonderful that the principal took the time to recognize her kindness. It is amazing how one small act of kindness can set off such a powerful chain reaction.
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I love how you put it — a powerful chain reaction. That is so true!! Thank you!
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Servant leadership in action! Oh, this story made me happy, Wynne.
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Oh, I’m so glad, my friend! Servant leadership — you nailed it. We need the good stories to keep us going, right?
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Absolutely, and you provide a good dose of great stories every week.
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Thank you, Edward!
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What a wonderful story, Wynne. Kudos to Miss O for helping without expectation of reward, and to the school principal for recognizing that this is behaviour worth rewarding. Love it!
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Oh, I love your comment, Michelle! So many worthy kudos!
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This is such a beautiful story it brought me to tears. Heroes are found everywhere sometimes we least expect them. Looking forward to your Wednesday chat.
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Funny you say that, Beth, because I leak a little from the eyes every time I talk about this! 🙂 Thank you!
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Look what Miss O. started–a whole string of kind encouragement from one person to another! Thank you so much for sharing this, Wyune–proof that paying it forward can produce astounding results! Most striking of all is that Miss O never intended such a train of events to unfold. She was simply stepping in to help another child in need. Beautiful!
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Oh, I love your comment, Nancy. You said it perfectly. Yes, astounding results. Thank you!
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A perfect example of how one good deed can lead to others and raise the spirits of many.
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This absolutely warmed my heart! It’s amazing how one small act of kindness can impact an entire school community. Kudos to your sweet daughter and to you for raising such a thoughtful one. ❤️❤️❤️
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This story touched me so deeply that I teared up. Heroes really can be found anywhere, often where we least expect them. Can’t wait for your Wednesday chat.
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You are raising some amazing humans, Wynne! I love that you emailed the Superintendent to tell the story. Both your daughter and the principal deserve the recognition.
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