“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.” – Brené Brown
As I type this, I can hear my kids 10 feet away slurping their hot chocolate. It’s the end of a busy weekend. We had our family over for Mother’s Day and now are winding down.
I’m trying to put my finger on the feeling. Over the course of the weekend, in addition to hosting a family party, my kids and I played a lot of baseball, done chores, cooked meals, watched movies and worked on a project outside to transform an area of our back yard. That last activity involved a lot of manual labor as we dug out a flat space and installed pavers to turn what used to be the base of the kids’ playhouse into a cozy place to sit in the garden.
In the last 48 hours, we’ve hurt our knuckles on the rough paving stones, cried some, especially when we lost our baseballs, and laughed a lot more than we cried. Along the way to finishing our project, we also bought this silly ball pitching machine that sends small 1.6 inch diameter foam balls zinging across the yard at 30 miles per hour. My body aches from moving heavy stones and gravel and chasing small yellow balls.
But my heart is so full. It’s the camaraderie with our extended family. Also this feeling that I’m right where I should be. I love my children whole-heartedly…and I like them too.
When I chose to start a family as a single parent ten years ago I had very little idea of how much work would be involved. I was listening to a God whisper about what came next for my life.
The Mother’s Day feeling I’m having right now? That I belong in this life. I suspect that might be one of the best gifts ever.
(featured photo is mine of our work in progress garden seating area)
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Oof! The feeling that you belong in your own life. I can’t think of a better place to be. Xo! 🥰
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Oh yes – you said it perfectly!! Hope you had a fantastic Mother’s Day, dear Vicki! ❤
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Yes, yes, yes! 🥰❤️🥰
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Sounded like a beautiful Mothers Day weekend, Wynne. I’m glad you had that with each other and your extended family. Enjoy the upcoming week ahead! The school year seems to be winding down too!
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Oh yes – the school year is quickly coming to an end! Hope you all have a great week!
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I love your seating area. Good job! Indeed the best Mother’s Day gift is belonging to the life you have at the moment. I bet you were tired at the end of the day, but a good tired.
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A good tired — well said, Darlene! Right! Happy Monday, my friend!
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oh, wynne, this made me tear up. yes, sometimes we suddenly realize we are exactly where we are where we are meant to be, scraped up knuckles and all, the chaos and love and joy and challenges of what makes a family –
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What a perfect comment. I feel seen, Beth. Thank you, my friend!
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These are the moments to savour, Wynne. You make so many such moments, and you are so good at knowing to savour them. 😊
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Oh, thank you, Jane! I think that being an older mom has helped me to savor these moments!
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What a wonderful weekend making memories. Your backyard space looks beautiful. You have so many more memories there to come. I’m impressed with the ball pitching machine!
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The ball pitching machine is crazy, Elizabeth – but also hilarious! As you know, it’s a journey when our kids go all-in for a sport! 🙂 Hope you had a fabulous Mother’s Day!
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How much fun! Yes, it was life changing when our kids went all in on swimming. I was fortunate they were in the same sport! I had a wonderful Mother’s Day and will see the kids soon.
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favorite line: “I’m right where I should be. I love my children whole-heartedly…and I like them too.”
I can relate so much to that with my adult children. Admitting that there have been rough times when I haven’t liked them very much. And, accepting that they might not be the person I thought they might become, but, instead, a much truer version of themselves. Motherhood is amazing.
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What an incredible comment, Gwen! It takes a lot of flexibility, acceptance, and grace, doesn’t it? Hope you had a fantastic Mother’s Day!
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How wonderful that you have such a good relationship with your kids. Kudos Wynne!
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Thank you, Brad! Also, my apologies because for some mysterious reason a couple of your comments went to SPAM. I recovered them but now can’t find them to reply. I’m sorry! I appreciate your comments so I’ll try to do better!
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No worries. WP gremlins do that! 😋
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Right!
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Very rewarding weekend Wynne, well done!
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Thank you, Cristiana!
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Of course that is the best gift ever Wynne. You are enjoying every moment and your children are thriving because of it. There is no greater gift than this kind of love. Beautiful post Wynne. What a lovely Mother’s Day reflection. 💕
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I love how you put it, Alegria — “this kind of love.” So well said. Thank you, my friend!
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Sounds like a fun and eventful weekend! I admire that you are a mother by choice living her dreams. Like “climb every mountain” you’ve found a “dream that can mean all the love you can give all the days of your life for as long as you live.”
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Oh, you said it so beautifully, Rebecca! Thank you!
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Thanks, Wynne. I’m just quoting Rodgers and Hammerstein. ; )
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There’s an art in knowing who to quote!
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I’m with other commenters. This is such a great line. “I love my children whole-heartedly…and I like them too.” I think it’s so touching for me . . . because it’s such an amazing thing when your kids don’t see you and you watch them help others or do something amazing. It gives you all the feels. You see all of your hard work pay off. A neat feeling.
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All the feels — yes!! Thank you for a wonderful comment, Brian!
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I’m glad you had a fulfilling Mother’s Day! I can’t relate to being a mom, but the sore muscles from manual labor? Yep. Pretty much every Monday is a recovery day this time of year.
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Oh, I’m laughing about Monday being a recovery day. That is so true!! Thanks, Mark!
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“The Mother’s Day feeling I’m having right now? That I belong in this life. I suspect that might be one of the best gifts ever.” It doesn’t get much better than this. I’m happy for you and your kids, Wynne. You’re amazing!
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You are so right, Pete! It doesn’t get much better than this! Thank you!
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Oh my dear Wynne, what a beautiful feeling of elation and satisfaction with everyone and everything you did that made your Mother’s Day exceptionally memorable. Beautifully delivered my friend. Have a FANtabulous week! 🤗💖💐
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Elation and satisfaction — you nailed it, Kym! Right! Thank you, my friend!
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You are so very welcome my dear. My pleasure! Cheers! 💖😘🥂
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Sounds like you had a great Mother’s day weekend, Wynne. Very eventful. Now, you need a vacation.🏖️ Also, nice job on the sitting area!🌟
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I’m laughing, Shaun. You’re right – now I need a vacation. 🙂 Thanks, my friend!
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A perfect mother’s day gift, feeling that you belong in your life with all its laughter and tears and love. 💞💞
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You said it perfectly, Rose! Yes! Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!
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I can feel the happiness through your post Wynne! What a beautiful place to be! 💚😊
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Thank you, my friend!
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Goodness, this is a beautiful post. That sense of belonging — what a tremendous gift. And I hope you guys have tons and tons of great times (laughter! stories! s’mores!) at your cozy patio in the yard 🌞
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Oh, Dave, what a beautiful comment. Thank you, my friend!
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“But my heart is so full… Also this feeling that I’m right where I should be. I love my children whole-heartedly…and I like them too.” Mic drop. Happy belated Mother’s Day.
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Thanks, Susan! I really appreciate this sweet comment!
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Belonging in your own life is what we aim for, isn’t it? I’m happy that things have worked out well for you. 🥰
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I’m not sure I could have named belonging at the goal 20 years ago — but yes, what a gift! Thanks, Ally!
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“That I belong in this life. I suspect that might be one of the best gifts ever.” – This is beautiful & this is it
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What a lovely comment. Thank you, Ananda!
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That garden spot looks so inviting! What a lovely nook for quiet conversations, reading, firefly watching, marshmallow roasting, and more. I had no idea you were a single mom, Wynne. I admire your courage! And I pray God’s blessings of strength, wisdom, and JOY upon you, as you raise your young ones.
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Oh, thank you, Nancy! I so appreciate your prayers and blessings! ❤
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Wonderful reflection, Wynne. You definitely belong, my friend. 🙏🏼
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What a lovely comment. Thank you, Edward! 🙂
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You’re so welcome, my friend.
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camaraderie is the best feeling; praise to you Wynne; my family is grown now but I enjoyed the years we spent together; and the grandkids still phone me and we have chats; happy days 🙂
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happy days for sure! Thanks, John!
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I like that, Matthew: a ‘faithful’ car 🙂
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You are a such an amazing mom and they are lucky to have you and you them. How wonderful to feel the joy of motherhood with others that share in the love of this special day! 💗
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Right back at you, Cindy! I love the way you celebrate your children and grandchildren! Thanks for showing me how!
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awww thanks a lot, Wynne! You are a natural.. I don’t think you needed any lessons but I’ll take the kind compliment! 💕
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I reread this several time, Wynne! “The Mother’s Day feeling I’m having right now? That I belong in this life. I suspect that might be one of the best gifts ever.” You are such a wonderful mother.
Lots of love to you and the kids.
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What an incredible gift of a comment. Thank you, Chaya!!
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You are most welcome, dear friend.💞💞
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