“When one teaches, two learn.” – Robert Half
Last Saturday morning, four-year-old Mr. D wanted to drive his remote control car down the sidewalk. Since we were still in our pajamas, I tried to lobby for a back yard activity. But the sun was shining, the birds were singing, and Mr. D wanted to go out front, so I covered up with a coat and followed.
Funny thing – it’s hard to drive those remote control cars straight. We spent a fair amount of time just getting to two doors down, the side walk in front of my favorite neighbors. They are a retired couple in their 70’s. They’ve lived here for almost fifty years, I lived here for twenty and so we’ve got some history under our belt.
My neighbors are interesting, generous, and kind. We’ve shoveled five yards of delivered bark from the street to the yard together. I’ve gotten to know their kids and grandkids. My kids tell them all that’s top of mind every time they see them. They often rake my strip of grass between the sidewalk and curb in the fall. I bought them toilet paper at Costco during the pandemic.
When we got in front of their house, Mr. D said, “Let’s go ask them to play.” Some polite part of me thought we’d be pests asking them to do that on a Saturday morning. I said we shouldn’t. But Mr. D put his hand on his hip and said, “Follow my lead.”
When we got up to the front door and they answered, Mr. D handed the remote control to them and said, “want to drive?” We had a lovely time standing on the porch and talking while Mr. D chased down the car any time it went astray. It was so enjoyable to chat with my neighbors that I don’t see nearly enough this time of year with short days and cozy couches inside.
My kids keep teaching me how important play is. For myself. And to keep inviting others to play. It connects us and relaxes us. And it’s fun. It isn’t an interruption – it’s what we need more of.
Isn’t it amazing how children lack the reservations we do. And from that comes a beautiful experience. Great lesson here Wynne. Let’s look with child-like eyes.
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So well said, Alegria. They just see all the opportunities! Thank you, my friend!
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We used to joke that mine was the goodwill ambassador of our neighborhood!
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Haha that’s great. And wonderful.
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She was known for leaping and dancing instead of walking, everywhere she went.
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She sounds like a joyful soul. How beautiful.
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She was. Thank you. 🙏
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You speak in the past tense. I’m so sorry. You know, she is with you, still, and still full of joy. 💕
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She’s worse than dead, dear. She does her level best to make everyone feel that I’m mentally incompetent, and should either be returned to her household for profiling and eventual lockup, or just locked up right now. All my grandchildren and great grandchildren have been taught to despise me.
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I’m very sorry to hear that Ana. I’m certain that’s very difficult.
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At a certain point one must put aside the heartbreak as much as possible and do what one can alone, so that’s what I’ve done. I really appreciate you taking the time to reach back. Please have a beautiful evening.
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You’re absolutely right. We must move through and beyond those things that cause us pain. I commend you for doing that. It can’t be easy. And, my pleasure. Have a beautiful evening yourself.
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How very, very kind. 🤗
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I love that, Ana! We all need that ambassador!
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Love this exchange between you two, Ana and Alegria. What great openness and receiving. Beauty amidst the pain. Sending love!
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I loved it too, and am grateful for your extra trouble in affirming it. 🙏
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“Follow my lead.” Oh, this is gold Wynne! When you write your book on parenting and nurturing confident children, this can be your lead story. Mr. D’s kindness is inspiring!!! Way to go.
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Oh my stars…that’s exactly what jumped out at me, Brian. Go, Mr. D. We’ll follow you…we just will. Love him, Wynne! 🤣🥰🤣
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Awww, thank you dear Vicki!
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Thank you, Brian! I loved that statement as well. Especially because he is usually more reserved than his sister. Thank you for your lovely comment and encouragement!
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I just love his confidence and self-assuredness. I know I wouldn’t have had that as a kid! Go Mr. D — show us all how it’s done! And remote control cars are the bomb!!!!
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It couldn’t be said better, Wynne. Indeed, perhaps we need games where people of different politics join the other team to play a political game. Would it be healing?
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A great idea, Dr. Stein. I couldn’t imagine how it would hurt and it might do a whole lot of good!
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couldn’t agree more!
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Thank you, Gwen!
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How sweet! There is something magical about kids’ lack of reservation. They can teach us so much.
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They can teach us so much. Exactly! Hope you have a wonderful weekend, Erin!
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Absolutely! You too, Wynne! ☺️
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I couldn’t agree more. My 3 and 1 year old grandsons continue to teach me the value of play.
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I love this affirmation of play from you, Nancy! So good to see you!
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I love this. I think it’s great you let your son lead with his fun ideas.
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Mr. D is often more reserved so when he wanted to lead, I couldn’t wait to see where it would go. Thank you, Elizabeth! Have a great weekend!
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What a very nice story. Go, Mr D!
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Thank you, Jane!
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Great story and Mr. D. leading the way. A natural born leader, awesome!
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Thank you, Edward!
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Perhaps the gap between play and non-play isn’t as big as we think it is, Wynne.
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Oh, what an insight, Malcolm!
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Oh how I am re-learning to play more at my age Wynne. 🤹🏼♀️🏃🏼♀️🤹🏼♂️ While I know we tend to slow down, this lesson from Mr. D is an important one, that makes us get up off of our hind parts and move with purpose and compassion. Now this is such a lovely interruption I welcome. Thanks for sharing this sweet story! 😍💖🤗🙏🏽🥰
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I love how you put it Kym, “get up off of our hind parts and move with purpose and compassion.” Here’s to more of that!! ❤
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Cheers to that Wynne! More PLAY ahead! 🤗💖😍
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Wise words. What confidence, “Follow my lead” !
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I agree, Rebecca. He doesn’t usually show that side so I was happy to follow!
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Kids are spontaneous and we should learn also this from them !
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Spontaneous – a great word for it. Thank you!
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Yes! Play is far underrated in my opinion. I’m so glad you chose to follow Mr. D.’s lead.
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Far underrated — and I often forget. Great point, Michelle!
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I love this! Our greatest barriers to playing is ourselves! Glad Mr. D is leading the way!
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Ourselves — exactly, Tamara! Thank you!
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We play box games in this house which is a kind of play, but the type of spontaneous goofing off… well, we’ve gotten away from that. Good reminder here, thanks.
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Spontaneous goofing off – exactly, Ally! I need that reminder too for SURE. And I love that you play box games!
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I love my yard most of the year…but there are a few weeks every fall where I’d given anything to just have a strip of grass to rake!
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And even yet – just have a strip of grass and your neighbors do it for you! Right!
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We need more reaching out to our neighbors. Mr. D is a trail blazer. (And the really great thing is, he already knows he is.) 🙂
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Reaching out to our neighbors. So well said, Susan. Thank you!
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“Follow my lead.” WOW, that is one self-assured and confident child, Wynne. Way to go to you and Mr D. And play really is the best way to learn and to connect with our little ones. They teach us so so much every day. 💕
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I love how you play with T to talk things out. I need to figure out how to do that better. Mr. D surprised me because he’s not usually so assertive. Maybe he’s growing into it!
Hope you have a great weekend! XOXO!
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Early morning pajama parties really are the best – way to go Mr. D!!!
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Early morning pajama parties. Right, Mary! 🙂 ❤
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So very true, Wynne! 💞💞💞 Not to mention how nice it is to connect with others over play as well! 💞
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Great point about connecting with others, Dawn! Yes! ❤ ❤ ❤
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I have no doubt that this encounter delighted your neighbors just as much as it delighted you. Also: But Mr. D put his hand on his hip and said, “Follow my lead.”—Too, too great! Kids! They know so much more than we do sometimes!
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Kids do know so much more than we do sometimes – great point, Betsy! Yep, we just need to know when to follow their lead and still remember when to get the off to bed. Right, my friend? 🙂 ❤ ❤
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Right!
You’re way better at doing fun things with your kids than I am. I feel so lazy these days!
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I think they call that “resting” because you’ve already done the hard work my dear friend!
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Haha. Oh, I wish I could say that. I have no excuse with a six-year-old however! 😛
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It seems Joe is doing great! 🙂 ❤ ❤
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He has his moments. 🙂
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What a heartwarming story!
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Thank you, Esperanza!
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You are welcome! Keep shining!
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Yes, playing is soooooo important. That is why I love kids. They are a reminder of it, among other things.
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Yes yes yes!! And they are fun to dance with as I know you appreciate, Parisa!
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What a heartwarming story! Thank you for sharing this delightful moment of neighborly joy and the reminder to embrace playfulness in our lives.
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Thank you, tubasarwat!
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Love it. ❤️
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Thanks for reading and commenting!
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Children are free spirited and fearless. We , adult, think too much and loose our spontaneity.
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Well said, Namrata!
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The most beautiful time of life is childhood, when you have no tensions and worries. Very nice post.
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This is good
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Thank you!
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