“On an airplane, you are always told to put on your oxygen mask first. The same way in life, you need to take care of your health first. If you are not happy and healthy, you cannot make anyone else happy and healthy..” – Rajashree Choudhury
About ten days ago, my friend got a hip replacement and was staying with us in the initial recovery period. My beloved neighbor who was a physical therapist for 40 years came over to give him tips. The one that caught my ear was to make sure he had a clear path.
He was talking about how to successfully navigate with a walker. I noticed the advice because we were trying to find a way to help. In a house with me, two kids, a 2-year-old dog, a cat, and a crested gecko, the floor is often cluttered. Not that the cat and the gecko have much to do with it. It was a good reminder to tend to the Legos, stuffies, and balls that regularly find their way to the floor.
But it also struck me as it’s such a great way to think about what we need in times we are repairing ourselves, inside and out. Sometimes we need to make sure we have a clear path for healing. To Lego of the grand ambitions, to clear the stuffies from our calendars, and to stop juggling the balls that are thrown our way.
My friend did a lot of thoughtful preparation for his hip replacement recovery. He parked his car in a different spot so people could come pick him up and drop him off with ease. He left a key outside the door so that others could let themselves in. Things to clear the path as he recovered.
As I learned when I got sick last week, we don’t always have the time to prepare to heal. But we can clear the path to assist our recovery when we need it.
(featured photo is Cooper the dog doing his best as a therapy dog)
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There’s always life instances that we need assistance. Stay healthy, Wynne and healing prayers for your friend, too.
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Thank you for your kind and supportive prayers, Hazel!
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My pleasure always, Wynne
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Perfect analogies, Wynne. It’s so neat you picked up on ‘clear the path’ and aligned it with an encouraging way to help heal ourselves. Such a timely post… Here’s to clear paths ahead. 💞😊
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Thank you, Rose. I think I picked up on it because I often don’t have a clear path, literally or metaphorically! Here’s to clear paths!!
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This is powerful, Wynne:
“Sometimes we need to make sure we have a clear path for healing. To Lego of the grand ambitions, to clear the stuffies from our calendars, and to stop juggling the balls that are thrown our way.”
Sending all of my best wishes and hugs! 💝
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Thank you, dear Vicki!! We’re all good!!
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❤️🥰❤️
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That’s such a goood way of thinking about it. Hope you’re much better now ❤️
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Thank you, Esther! I’m definitely on the mend. I appreciate your good wishes!
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Such a great analogy! There is a lot more ease in life if we observe, and possibly adjust our environment, before taking our first step. Wishing your friend a speedy and full recovery! ❤️
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Oooh, I love the way you extended this, Erin. Yes!!
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I was half-expecting this post to turn funny with the clear the path and the dog is clearning NOT clearing the path 😉
That said, yes, it is so important. Hope you feel better and your friend recovers well from his surgery.
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Oh Dale, you have a photographer’s eye for the story. You’re right – Cooper was totally clued in that my friend was healing but absolutely clueless about how to get out of the way. 🙂
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Hahaha! I feel sure he is (in the way) 😉
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“In a house with me, two kids, a 2-year-old dog, a cat, and a crested gecko, the floor is often cluttered. Not that the cat and the gecko have much to do with it.” ☺️ … but … therein with in care of Wynne, Miss O, Mr. D, along with puppy, cat and crested gecko lies the special ‘cluttered’ healing therapy that no medical can ever provide. God bless you guys.
If Ellen’s no longer around and I break a hip, I’ m calling your Wynne 😊
Keep Looking Up ^ … His Best is Yet to Come!
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We’re available, Fred!! Although I think we provide more comic relief than actual healing help! What I couldn’t believe is that hip replacement is outpatient surgery. We were there by 6am and out by 1pm. What??
But thank you for appreciating our circus!! ❤ ❤ ❤
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Linking Legos, stuffies, and balls to healing – well done, Wynne!
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You have to work with what you have, right, Dana? 🙂
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For sure, that is the fun of writing, you never know what will spark your imagination!
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Clear the decks is a good healing motto, it also works for repairs to the home. I open a path to the item to be repaired, taking delicate items and obstructions out of the way. Helps every time. Although the corollary is that there is always one extra room I haven’t planned for work boots to enter…
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Oh, this is such a smart corollary, Rebecca! And it takes so much of the prep time to do that clearing! Thanks for the great comment!
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Hi Wynne, I thought of it because we had a bit of electrical work done today! And yes, there was a bit in a room that needed its paths straightened.
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Love Cooper as the emotional support dog.
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Cooper was glued to his side. It was cute. 🙂
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Cooper looked like he was taking his work very seriously and enjoying the support role.
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Cooper is offering your friend a very useful pet-therapy!
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Yes, he was so focused on being near. Funny how they know!
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Good advice, Wynne.When we in haste we are more likely to stumble along the path. May your friend have an easy recovery.
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What a great comment, Dr. Stein. Right – I move in haste a lot and discover that lesson. My friend is healing well – thanks for the well wishes!
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I agree we should execute a game plan ahead of expected lifestyle disruptions, and make a path as effortless as possible for everyone involved to navigate. And because we’re talking life here, the unexpected is expected, and having that well-cleared path is going to come in very handy when and if obstacles arise, Wynne. Great example here!
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I love how you extended this to clearing for everyone involved. That’s so good, Bruce! Yes! Thank you!
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I love this analogy. Sometimes we also just need to get out of our own way. The mental and emotional obstacles we put up are often not real, they just feel real because we are fearful of taking an unknown step. “The devil known” and all that. Being able to move forward in our lives often requires a new mindset, so removing the obstacles is an excellent first step!
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Ah, I like what you’ve done with the comment, Tamara. Clearing the obstacles as the necessary first step. That’s so good! Yes!
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You started it! 😉
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A great life lesson and analogy. Thanks Wynne.
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Thank you, Brad!
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very wise ; glad to see Cooper ‘chipping in’ 🙂
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Cooper is game! Thank you, John!
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“clear path for healing.” Hmm, do you mean like actually listen to hearts and body and to take care of ourselves? Really? Ha, ha, yes, I’m playing Wynne. This is such great advice and some that I’m never very good at following. But it makes such great sense! Love it.
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Ha, ha. I’m playing too — but also I have a hard time doing this for myself too. Amazing how hard the basic things can be!! Thank you, my friend!
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Clearing the path to healing and recovery strikes a good chord with me! Wishing you and your friend much good health in 2026!
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Oh yes, Mary! You have experienced first hand how having a clear path is necessary! Wishing you and Mr. Z good health in 2026!!
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I’ve been doing a lot of “clearing the path” this long weekend. I had to shovel the driveway and sidewalk four days in a row! I didn’t even bother today. That path can stay blocked for all I care at this point.
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Four days in a row?! That’s ridiculous!
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Guess what I’m doing after work today…
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You’re a great friend to support your friend through his surgery. I’m sorry the hecticness was complicated with your illness. Hope you are both on the mend.
And I love the thoughtful reflection on clearing the path to healing – both externally and inward facing, and especially inward facing, I’d say.
Hope the kids enjoyed having a day off school today and hope your short week is a smooth one!
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Thanks, Ab. You’re right – life has been a little chaotic. But all good stuff as we are on the mend!
I think you all had a four day weekend, right? Glad you got out into the snow! Sending best wishes for a good rest of the week!
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T had a 4 day weekend not the parents! 😂 Snow day on Thursday then a PD Day on Friday.
Happy hump day!
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that’s such a good analogy, and we don’t always think of it until it’s a necessity. kind of you to let your friend recover with you and kind of your friend to teach you a lesson, even if it was by accident. may all involved have clear paths to rest and recovery.
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You’re right, Beth – kind all around! Thank you for the lovely comment!
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I love your analogies, Wynne. You always take routine things in life and find a way to connect them with something more profound. I hope your friend’s quality of life improves significantly after getting a hip replacement. It’s not one of those surgeries you bounce back quickly from. One of the people in my writing group had one and is doing immensely better. I hope the kids took good care of you and that you’re feeling 100% now.
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Thank you, Pete! I think we’re all feeling better but you’re right – hip surgery does take some time. Hope you are having a great week, my friend!
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Hi Wynne thank you for this tender and honest reflection. I loved how the simple act of clearing space for a friends recovery becomes a deeper lesson about emotional healing too. It gently reminds us that healing is not only about rest but also about making space in our lives for clarity compassion and presence. Your words made me pause and reflect on what in my own path no longer serves my wellbeing. Sometimes the first step is simply noticing the obstacles and choosing to move them. I truly wish your friend a smooth and quicker recovery and I hope you both continue to walk forward with strength and light.
Rohitash
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Thank you, Rohitash. Clarity, compassion and presence – what a powerful trio. Appreciate the comment!
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Thank you Wynne
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Great analogy, my friend. Clearing the path to healing is so important. Sometimes the obstacles are difficult ones, like family, but we need to work through all of that to reach the healing we need to change our lives. I think Cooper is doing a fantastic job and is taking the task seriously.
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Yes, Cooper is that kind of dog! You’re right – we do need to work through all that to heal. Thank you for the wise comment, my friend!
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You’re welcome, my friend.
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This was a really calm read, Wynne. Its so easy to forget that slowing down is part of the work. This was a good pause so, thank you for that.
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I really appreciate this comment, Ritish. Yes, it is an important part of the work and so easy to forget. Thank you for this insightful comment!
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Another sweet and useful nugget of thoughtful processing, Wynne! What dear neighbors you and your family are! Hoping for successful healing for your friend and lots of clear paths ahead!
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Thank you so much, Lori. What a lovely and encouraging comment and I really appreciate it!
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That’s such a helpful bit of insight. Make sure to have a clear path. Yes, I’m needing to do that post surgery and need to remember to carry that on in other areas of my life.
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I’m glad that you are through your surgery. Yes, I imagine you can especially relate to needing a clear path right now. Hope you heal well!
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You’re a gifted storyteller, weaving personal experiences with the bigger picture. Thank you, Wynne. I’ve helped several family members with walkers post-surgery, though sans kiddos and pets. Certainly, a lot to manage.
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What a lovely comment. Especially meaningful because you’ve done the exercise as well. Thank you, Michele!
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You’re very welcome. 🦎
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Their opening quote is so true! I hope everyone is doing better!
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Thank you, Todd! We’re on the mend! Appreciate you, my friend!
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Good to hear! 💪💚
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Cooper is adorable and looks so soft and fluffy
Also, I am really glad I read this post because your analogy of clearing the path to healing was excellent. Also, cheers to the way everyone pulled together to help your friend !
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Thank you, Yvette! I really appreciate you reading and the lovely comment!
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