“It’s not the will to win that matters – everyone has that. It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.” – Paul “Bear” Bryant
I wasn’t a particularly athletic or outdoorsy kid. It wasn’t until my late 20’s that the climbing bug bit me. I was driving my car to work. I came around a corner, saw Mt. Rainier dominating the skyline and thought, “I should climb that.” From there climbing became not only one of my passions but also in many ways my metaphor for tackling the challenges of life.
Summits, blisters, carrying a pack, one step at a time, working as a rope team, objective versus subjective dangers – all of it gave me such great perspective on life.
Give me a pebble in my shoe and I’ll turn it into an essay about self-care. I’ve failed to take the time to stop to get rid of something little before it gets big enough times to have a lot to say about that lesson.
All of this to say that I came to hiking and climbing mountains as an adult. So when I proposed to my kids in mid-December that we climb Tiger Mountain on New Years Day and they enthusiastically said they wanted to, I had to think carefully about how to make it a good experience for them.
Go ahead and groan now because here comes the point cloaked in a climbing story. The first time that I tried to climb Mt. Rainier, it hurt like hell. We made it to our base camp at 10,000 feet and then a storm came in. We couldn’t leave for our summit bid at midnight as planned because it was still snowing so at 6am, the lead guide came in and said, “Whoever wants to try for the top can go ahead and gear up. But we’ll have to go twice as fast as our normal pace to get this done in half the time.”
My friends and I made it 11,000 feet before dropping out. Only 3 out of the 24 climbers made it to the top that day.
And I learned that the better shape you are in, the more fun you’ll have climbing. There are two levels of readiness – the first is to get yourself up (and down) a mountain. The second is to train enough to climb the mountain AND have some more in the tank in case you need to do a little more. It’s more likely to be fun if you’ve trained to the second level.
This applies to other things as well. Like getting ready for a presentation. The first level accounts for doing the preparation of putting together the slide deck. The second is doing that, practicing the presentation out loud, preparing the Q&A, and doing it well enough in advance to have a cup of tea to calm the nerves before starting. I’ve done that both ways as well and the second one is way more fun.
Circling back to inviting my kids along for a hike up Tiger Mountain, I wanted them not only to be able to do it but also to have fun. That meant that we all had to do the work to train to that second level. Working out on the stairs in our home, going to the Capital Hill stairs to train, walking the trail at Discovery Park, doing a pre-NY day hike up Little Mt. Si – I tried to vary it and make it fun. We had some bad moments along with the good but ten-year-old Miss O and six-year-old Mr. D were pretty good sports about it all.
I told my friend, Bill, that we’d done the hike and he sent me the Bear Bryant quote for this post. It matches what I’ve experienced. There are a lot of things we can white knuckle and get through. Having fun doing it requires some preparation.
(featured photo is the kids and I on a training hike)
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I like how you reframed your thoughts and experiences to make it fun for the kids, for that’s what they’ll remember. Take the fun out of it and they’ll run far from anything resembling it once they get older. With fun they’ll learn that challenging themselves, within their personal limits, is very rewarding. Kudos!
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Well said, Tamara! We learn either way but one way it sticks as a good lesson and the other way it sticks as a bad one! Thanks for the comment!
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I had the same thought as Tamara. I remember when I first started yoga, weightlifting, hiking, etc. and each had hard parts at the start but, as I built competency, the challenges became fun. Also, that Paul “Bear” Bryant is great!!
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I love your comment that as you built competency, the challenges became fun. Yes!! Thank you, Erin!
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I love this, Wynne. The quote is perfect to go with this post and kudos to your kiddies and to you for achieving this wonderful goal. Nothing can stop you all now!
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What an encouraging and supportive statement. Thank you, Dale!
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You know it!
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Everything is better when you add fun! When I was teaching children English as a Second Language, I always made sure I incorporated fun in the lessons.
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Fun matters!! Love this comment, Darlene!
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Oof! Such wisdom here:
“I wanted them not only to be able to do it but also to have fun.”
Thank you, Wynne! 💝
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It’s a whole other level! Thank you, dear Vicki!
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Sounds like such a great activity with the kids and also taught you a lot!
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Yes! Well said, Pooja! Thank you!
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Having fun hiking gets a steroidal boost when done with your children. Thanks for the happy reminder Wynne.
Keep Looking Up ^ … His Best is Yet to Come!
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Steroidal boost — that’s exactly right! Thanks, Fred!
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Kudos on achieving the goal, having fun, and teaching valuable life lessons.
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Thank you, Brad!
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Hoping to read more conquest stories of your kids! 💕
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Me too, Ganga! Thanks for the encouragement!
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Such good life lessons at any age and I like the way you framed it, both ways will get you there but one way will much more fun and a better experience. This is a lesson we can all take from this and one your children will remember forever. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if they write about it someday and share it with their own children
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Wow – you’ve given me the goosebumps with this full circle comment, Beth. Oh, I hope I can read that someday! 🙂 ❤
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I commend you on helping to make this a successful experience for your kids. The mistake many people make when taking on a new endeavor is failing to respect the process of taking the time to get where they want to go. So many life lessons, beyond climbing, apply to this real-life teaching moment.
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Congratulations on doing the training and the hike!
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What a wonderful feat for you Wynne, Miss O and Mr. D to hike up Tiger Mountain! And oh my gosh, you guys certainly got some training in preparation for that hike! 🚶🏼♀️🥾🚵🏼♀️ This is so awesome and inspiring my friend! Talk about the will to win…just try! Hugs and smooches my dear friend. 💖
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Did you tell them there were real tigers at the top of the mountain? At that age, this would have been plenty of motivation for me to make the trek. I’ve always loved me some tigers.
(At that age, I probably didn’t realize actual tigers would probably eat me if given the chance.)
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Your commentary on preparation for a presentation caught my eye. One might add some advice about public speaking in general, including listening to the great speakers of the past such as Adlai Stevenson II, Churchill, and JFK. Recording your voice when you practice, too. I also benefited from memorizing what I intended to say, thus taking one’s head out of the written speech, thus increasing eye contact, and giving yourself more confidence and comfort in delivering it. There is more that one might do, but I will leave it at that, except to say I am sure your preparation for your children ascent was super! The Leon bunch looks very happy!
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