“Let go or be dragged.” – Zen Proverb
When I walk Cooper the dog in the morning, our cat, Simone, usually follows along. She is masterful at blending in or when other dogs come along and then appearing out of the shadows to keep pace with us when all is clear.
Yesterday, another neighborhood cat started aggressively running toward Simone as if to say, “How dare you cross that patch of sidewalk?”
Sensing the movement, Cooper turned to face the neighborhood cat. It stopped in its tracks. It seemed to be weighing whether confronting our cat was worth risking Cooper’s involvement.
After a long moment of stare down with Cooper and Simone, the cat ran opposite the way we were going.
I chuckled and thought to myself “Life is about wisely deciding what to let go.”
It reminded me of a conversation I had with my brother this past weekend. He said that he used to teach people how to make a to-do list.
- List everything out.
- Put it in order.
- Draw a line in the middle and just accept you were only going to get the top half done.
Then he glanced around my kitchen with the unread newspapers, the mix of dog toys and kids toys on the floor, and the school art projects waiting to be hung and said,
“Maybe only the top third in your case.”
Yeah, but I made a delicious dinner. I’m getting better at letting go of the rest.
(featured photo is mine: Simone on the family walk)
That is a plumpy cat 😊.
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Yes! She’s got a lot of fur that sticks straight out! 🙂
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That was a fun comment from your brother. A wise fellow! 😊
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It’s a little like your wisdom that you can’t have it all at the same time, right? 🙂
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Exactly! 😊
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Cleaning up is a task. Preparing a delicious dinner is an art. I’ll take the dinner every time, Wynne.
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A wise perspective, Dr. Stein. Me too!
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Oh this is too funny Wynne. 😂 Leave it to your brother to remind you of the list undone! 😜
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I’m glad you are laughing along with me, Kym. Yep, there’s nothing like siblings! 🙂
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Trust me Wynne, I know all too well. After I fire back with a few expletives, they laugh their butts off at me. 🤨 Nothin’ but love! 😂😝🤣
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I like your brother’s idea of ordering and prioritizing things. My work necessitated I re-prioritize tasks each morning, because to be sure there were ones from the day before that did not get done, as well as new, “hot” items which suddenly appeared. Always do what is most important first…and to be sure some of those tasks at the bottom will work their way towards the top at some point, Wynne.🙂
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I like your instruction of re-prioritizing each morning. And yes, I’m sure you’re right, the ones like cleaning work their way up over time! 🙂 Thanks, Bruce!
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Whoa…”life is about deciding what to let go”…that’s an awesome chunk of insight…however you got there…dog/cat relations (glad they achieve detente!) or commentary from a funny/smart brother. I like your conclusion and I’m with Dr. Stein. Dinner wins! 🥰😉🥰
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Dinner wins. Doesn’t get any more real than that!! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
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Your brother sounds funny! I’ve had many lessons in “letting go by necessity” and it’s been a valuable skill, and quite freeing, as the Zen Proverb suggests.
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A valuable skill – I totally agree! I so appreciate your hard-won practice in that skill, Erin!
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Your brother’s comment made me laugh! Yes, you have a busy life. Our dog Angus would protect our cat if another creature would come into our yard — another cat or raccoon. Once, we walked downtown (a few blocks away) to a Christmas Tree sale. We were wandering up and down the rows of trees with the dog and our two children. Under a tree, our kitty jumped out to greet us. We had no idea she had tailed us.
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Isn’t that funny about cats following us? Simone followed us when she was very young – but then stopped until we got Cooper. I guess she thinks she needs to keep tabs on him. 🙂 And I love your stories about Angus. That’s a good one!
My brother makes me laugh, too! 🙂
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That’s funny about Simone keeping tabs on Cooper. Our cat who followed us was Sherman. We had her before Olive. Angus got to be both of their protectors during his lifetime. Olive is a scaredy cat and ventured out of our Palm Springs yard one time. I found her under a bush down the street while calling her name. She gave a little meow and I carried her home.
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Olive is smart. She knows how to ask for help!
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Hard to let go sometimes, but your brother has a point. As for Simone, she seems like a very happy cat!
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You’re right on both points, Belinda. She is a happy cat. And my brother is smart. 🙂 ❤
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I’m supposed to be working on something for my work. A report-thingy that I’ve been putting off completing. I took a break to check out WordPress and came to your post. “Life is about wisely deciding what to let go.” I think it’s a sign to let my work go! What do you think Wynne? Ha, ha.
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Oh, I think that’s absolutely a sign to let the work go!! 🙂 ❤
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Just the invite I needed. So long wrk!!!!
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Honestly, Wynne. Some days I’m happy if I get just one thing on the list done.
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Oh, you’ve made me feel like I’m in good company since you are so productive and accountable. Thanks, Michelle!
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The delicious dinner supersedes everything else on the list!
Okay, most of it anyway.
Even cats get it right sometimes.
Love that proverb. Getting dragged sounds less than optimal!
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I’m laughing about “even cats get it right sometimes.” Right! 🙂 Thanks, David!
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What’s for dinner? “Life is about wisely deciding what to let go.”- and I will agree with you here, and thanks for the gentle reminder!
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Shredded pork tacos. 🙂 Thanks for agreeing with my “letting it go” approach, Mary! ❤
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Cooper saved the day again. Top 3 in the to-do list sounds about right for me also but it feels so good when you have 50+ items on the list.
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Oh, I so agree with you, Edward! Thank you!
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You know your priorities Wynne. Dinner and fun walks with the family. Everything else is peripheral. That is until we run out of dishes. 😄
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I’m laughing about running out of dishes. Yes, we need something to eat the delicious dinner on! Thanks, Alegria!
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Letting go is an art and skill we all need to practice more. Many times I apply the triage method to my to-do lists, and be happy that I have dealt with a critical one or two…the rest will wait. 💞
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Triage – great approach, Dawn! Yes!
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Love this Wynne! It’s been a lifelong experimental & learning experience(s) for me and still I don’t complete my lengthy to do lists 😀 Isn’t it a great feeling though having replaced the boring bits with something we really enjoy doing. Yeah, letting it go – never thought of it that way before.
Note to self.. “must try harder”.
On letting it go of course 👌
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I love your comment that gets to the heart of it. “Must try harder…on letting go of course!.” So good, Margaret!
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I love that your cat joins you for morning walks! And your bro has a good, practical lesson about to-do lists. Yeah, not all that stuff is going to get done. But we can delight in delicious dinners! And morning walks. 🙂
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I like that you are in agreement with walks, delicious dinners and knowing some of the rest isn’t going to get done! Yeah, the cat is funny – she likes to shadow us. Probably thinks we are up to no good! 🙂
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The aggressive cat and you brother are both wise! I, we, could all use more of that wisdom to let some things go.
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I agree, Ab. We could all use more of that wisdom to let some things go. And it’s a continual exercise!
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That was 😊
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Thanks, Nathan!
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Great post, Wynne! Love your photo, and your brother’s comment wrapped it up perfectly! We seem to be on the same wave length of ‘letting go.’ My post yesterday was on the same topic, but this is a nuanced topic. 🥰
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A nuanced topic for sure – loved your take on it, Lauren!
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Thanks again, Wynne!
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I find it interesting when people take their cats out for a walk! I never tried it! Yes, the list thing is only too true!
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The cat walking thing is really interesting. It makes for interesting progress at times!
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I bet! The expression “herding cats” comes to mind!
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I love this Wynne, “maybe only the top third in your case.” Bahaha. I agree, letting go of the perfectionism, the worry, the keeping up of appearances –let it go! I say, prioritize the fun, forget the messes, enjoy the moment, the people, and the food. Hugs, C
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I’m with you, Cheryl, “I say, prioritize the fun, forget the messes, enjoy the moment, the people, and the food.” Right!
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Interesting approach on expectations about the to-do list. But, my items are not listed in order of importance, as I add to it constantly. I’m more likely to scan the list for things that I can knock out quickly and try to get those done. But, point taken that everything on the list will not get done during a normal day. I am with you on prioritizing the family here and now!
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I like knocking things out quickly approach. It makes it seem like the list is doable with each cross out…even if I have to accept they won’t all get done.
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Your brother’s a wise man. He might not have the cleanest house, but that’s a small price to pay for wisdom.
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It’s all about trade-offs, right? Good point, Mark! 🙂
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Typical me, I have a running list from which I cherry pick the most appealing of the moment. If something is put off long enough, it eventually gets removed. Dinner would always be at the top of my list, if prepared by someone else, of course! Love that Cooper saved the day.
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I love your approach, Julia! Pick the most appealing and then the rest float away. As it should be!! ❤ ❤ ❤
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One might rightfully view my approach as either a good thing or a bad thing—depending upon how one looks at it! LOL
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I’d always vote to go with your approach — on anything!
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I wish I had known about the 1/3 to 1/2 rule before! Ha ha.
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Seriously! That kind of wisdom needs to get passed on when we have a child! 🙂
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Yes, Especially with kids on board!
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