“Kindness and politeness are not overrated at all. They’re underused.” – Tommy Lee Jones
When I met with Mr. D’s lead preschool teacher for a parent-teacher conference, I asked a general question at the end, “What else can I do to be of help to you?” Her reply was interesting. She said, “Nothing. You already turn on the bathroom light.”
She was referring to an incident from several weeks before. Early in the morning when there is only one teacher in the classroom, they can’t leave the class to go with a child to the bathroom. The teacher stands in the door to the classroom so they can both see the kids in the classroom and the bathroom, but the child has to cross the five or six feet to go to the bathroom themselves.
One day, I was dropping Mr. D off and the teacher was encouraging a child that needed to use the bathroom. His body was antsy but his face was fearful. It didn’t take much to connect the dots that the teacher couldn’t reach the light switch from her position in the doorway and the child was reluctant to walk into a dark bathroom.
So I asked, “Can I turn on the light?”
When she alluded to this incident at our conference, a light came on for me. I drew the only conclusion that makes sense. It doesn’t take much to help.
For great lessons I learned from another teacher in our lives, please check out my Heart of the Matter post: Lessons From An Artist
We seldom realize the big impact of the little things we do have on others. Kudos to you Wynne!
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Right! And it’s so fun to hear that affirmation so we can remember to keep doing them! Thank you, Fred! I appreciate all your encouragement – every time you do it! 🙂
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My takeaway: some times we just need to turn on the light, but we make a huge difference. A light is nothing for an adult, for a scared kid, it’s huge. Go ahead and wear your superhero outfit Wynne! You deserve the applause! 🦸♀️🦸♀️🦸♀️🦸♀️😎
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Ha, ha, ha! I suspect we all could be better super heroes if we put down our phones so as to notice better what we could do.
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I imagine you as someone who turns on a light for others, literally and figuratively. Its heartwarming to read this conversation between you and Mr D’s teacher because it reminds me that there are good people out there and that the small gestures of kindness do make a big difference.
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Yes, yes, yes! What a generous comment that is its own gesture of kindness. I really appreciate it, Ab!
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This is what I wanted to say but you said it better, Ab and Wynne 🙏💕 This post made me tear up. It doesn’t take much for us to make a little boy’s world a less scary place while simultaneously making a hard-working teacher’s world just a wee bit easier. Imagine if every person thought this way, every day. As the song goes, what a wonderful world it would be…
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Ah, what a beautiful comment, Patti. What a wonderful world it would be indeed – and so we go forth with one little kindness at a time! Thank you, my friend!
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🙂💕🙏
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I’m not surprised to read this! It fits with who you are in every sense! As others have mentioned, you turn on the figurative light for so many!
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Thank you so much, Tamara! What a lovely comment to read – I appreciate it! ❤
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*smile* all true!
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❤ ❤ ❤
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You’re a kind soul. I would have turned on the light and told the kid, “This way, you’ll be able to SEE the monster lurking in the corner!”
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Ba-ha-ha, Mark!! Good one. 🙂
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My kids always hated when I dropped them off at daycare. I have no idea why…
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It is the little things that make life what it is. Thank you for sharing.
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Absolutely! Thanks for commenting!
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beautiful Wynne. Its true, sometimes its the small gestures that really make the most difference
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That’s so true, Brenda. We don’t have to do big, grand gestures – just pay attention to the small opportunities!
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Small things can go a long way.
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Right! 🙂
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You were where you needed to be for that little, and his teacher…
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Thank you, Deb. It was so little, I felt grateful but also wondered how many little things I miss?
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I don’t think we have the ability to catch everything, we can just be thankful that we get the moments that we do.
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A beautiful note of perspective. Thank you, Deb!
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We sometimes forget, Wynne, the impact of small acts. In the scheme of things, they can add up to a lot. If everyone could do one small thing each day to help another then the world would move in a much different direction.
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I love your comment for the big picture reminder of what we could ALL do. Thank you, Davy!
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I don’t recall ever hearing a parent offer help during a visit of all the parents to be introduced to the new teacher. While I know some do, you reach out in a more commendable way than I ever did.
As to the light coming on (metaphorically speaking), I suspect we adults , (including the teachers) are sometimes late to flip our internal switch. You are a fine model in the Department of Turning on the Light. Let’s make you the Vice President of the DTL by acclamation! I am sure your readers will agree, Wynne!
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What an incredibly lovely comment, Dr. Stein! I am so grateful for these wonderful teachers – they do glitter projects and make slime with these kids among many, many other things that make sure a difference!
And as an electrical engineer by education, I take special pride in your proclamation to be VP of DTL. 🙂
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Little efforts can yield big results! We should take advantage of that when we we can because sometimes big efforts yield small results 😬
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I’m chuckling about your very good point, Todd! 🙂
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I agree with all the lovely comments, Wynne. The ‘turning on the lights’, metaphorically is all you! And Dr. Stein’s thought that we should provide a title — VP of DTL — I’m on board! 🥰
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Thank you so much for this vote of confidence – and all the others – dear friend! ❤
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😘😘😘
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I also agree with the comments of the others. Turning on a light for someone else, literally but especially figuratively, is something we should aim to make part of our nature. It is indeed most often the small gestures that make the difference.
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Well said, Jane! If it was just part of our nature, think of the world we could live in! 🙂
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Very true! The tiniest of things make a difference 🙂
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Yes!! A little nudge, right?
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Turning on the light is such a wonderful metaphor.
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Thank you, Rebecca!
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That small action of yours helped that child so much. He could have had an embarrassing accident that would stick with him for years! How wonderful you figured it out.
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What a lovely comment. Thank you, Elizabeth. Funny how you get attuned to those things as a parent!
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We do pay closer attention to those around us.
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Yes, well said!
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I too agree with the comments from your readers – you are a special mother, and you radiate light-soaked joy!
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Wow, wow, wow, Mary. What an incredibly special compliment. Thank you!
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Sweet story. I like considering light in the context of kindness. It rings, or dare I say, shines true with me.
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Ah, such a good one, Ally! Yes, I agree – light and kindness often go together.
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What a touching story, Wynne. It makes me wonder how many of those tiny gestures of kindness that we don’t think of are long-remembered those impacted. As others have mentioned, your action and the teacher’s appreciation don’t shock me in the least. You just radiate kindness everywhere you go!
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Thank you, Erin! Your comment makes me think of your post about you and your boyfriend at the farmer’s market. Kindness does go a long way!
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So true! In fact, I had forgotten about the farmer’s market. I suppose it’s a good sign if acting with kindness is so habitual that we don’t even recognize the potential impact.
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