“Make sure to include yourself in the list of things you need to take care of this week.” – unknown
During this last week when the kids had a week off from school, six-year-old Mr. D repeatedly asked at bedtime what we were doing the next day. I discovered that he felt much more grounded when we made a list. It worked even better when he wrote it himself.
I’m a list person so I totally relate to D’s love of lists.
- Lists help me prioritize what I need to do first.
- There’s nothing like a list to keep me going when my motivation flags.
- Writing a list reminds me of James Clear’s adage, “You don’t rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”
- I get a great deal of satisfaction when I cross an item off my list.
- When I don’t get something do, it prompts me to consider whether it’s simply that I don’t have the time or I have simple underlying resistance that I need to address.
Nothing like a list to bring things into focus. Mr. D included “Chillax” on his list. It’s a good reminder to prioritize downtime even on days when the list is long.
(featured photo from Pexels and quote from Enlightened Mind 622 – Make Sure to Include Yourself)
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It’s the time for adding ourselves to lists and checking it twice. We had 10 variations on place seating on lists lol. I wanted to say, just let people sit where they want! 😹😇hugs
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That’s so funny, Cindy! Right – I think your approach is so wise!! ❤
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It’s always good to have lists to track the progress, but I think I’m good at doing lists when I buy groceries🤭 Good behaviour, Wynne.
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That’s such a good one, Hazel. I always think I’ll remember when I go to the store but if I don’t write it down, I’ll invariably get distracted and forget something!
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That’s very true, Wynne. Having a grocery list helps us a lot
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Including yourself in your own to do list is an excellent tip!
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Thanks, Cristiana!
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Making lists is a great sign of a well organized person. Kudos to instilling this skill in Mr D! And I’m with you on the lists. They keep me grounded and focused too. Hope you all enjoy the first week of December ahead!
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Grounded and focused – well said! Happy December, my friend!
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I make lists, but don’t always manage to tick everything off 🙃
Then I beat myself up 🤗
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Oh, I do that too, Maggie. It’s a growth area for me. 🙂
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Oh I am glad to know that Wynne !
Thank you.
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Sometimes I make lists…. and sometimes I actually look at them!
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The power of a list works even when you don’t look at it. Right, Dale? 🙂
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I admit that if I have written down the list, and forgotten it on the counter, I still pick up almost everything on it 😉
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That’s a good point that the writing the list helps!
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This little post packs a punch! I’ve always loved lists and structure, and building a plan on unstructured plan (i.e., no school, no work) really can be so grounding. I also love James Clear’s adage and think about it almost daily. So much goodness here, Wynne. Thank you!
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Grounding — exactly!! I’m not surprised that you are a list keeper too, Erin. It must be how you get so much done!! Thank you — and have a great day! ❤ ❤ ❤
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interesting, I made a list last night. because I realized that I had been so busy helping others, something I love doing, that I had been neglecting doing things for myself, which I also love doing, so I made of list of things to do today, beginning with things to do for myself that I had been putting off.
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I love this, Beth! So glad you put your stuff at the top of the list!
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“When I don’t get something done, it prompts me to consider whether it’s simply that I don’t have the time or I have simple underlying resistance that I need to address.” . . .
It’s inevitably my “underlying resistance” not time that deprioritizes the thing on my ‘To Do’ list that needs to be done.
Thanks for the uncomfortable, convicting reminder Wynne 😔
Keep Looking Up ^ … His Best is Yet to Come!
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Ah, me too, Fred! Thanks for the insightful comment!
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I mostly keep track of my blog post ideas in my head, making notes periodically in a journal. Now that I’m retired, I mainly just have a grocery list!
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The grocery list is a life saver, right? I always think I’ll remember — but then I get distracted and forget something if I don’t have a list! Thanks, Dana!
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I forget things even with a list!!
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You and Mr. D would make good psychologists, Wynne, for the reasons you’ve indicated. We get better sleep this way, too.
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Better sleep — yes, I’ve noticed that magic too. Thanks, Dr. Stein!
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I’m the Queen of list making! Without a list I have a panic attack. My daughter followed in my footsteps. I once found one of her lists when she was about 9 or ten. It was so cute and went something like this:
It makes sense to know what the weather is like before getting dressed. I understand Mr D’s wanting to know what he’ll be doing the next day. I do too.
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Oh Darlene – that’s so precious!! Thank you for sharing that!!
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I like lists, too. One of my friends said she likes to cross things off her daily lists in red. I tried it and it is more satisfying!
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Oh, I love this. Thanks for the tip, Elizabeth!
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As a list maker, I agree with Mr. D to include “Chillax”! ❤️❤️❤️
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It’s a good one, isn’t it? And I bet you know just how to do it well, Mary!
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It is a time of year for lists! Many items long in December – these lists!
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Oh, you are so right about our long December lists, Rebecca!
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Now all I want for Christmas is a new stove is added to mine… CO misadventure at Thanksgiving.
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I love to-do lists. Mapping out the day is so helpful. I knew people who created different lists for work and home, but that never worked for me. I’ve always been a one list guy. I need to make sure I include some “chillax” time on mine.
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I’m a one-lister too. I think it helps to keep both work and home prioritized. Hope you got some “chillaxing” down over the weekend, my friend!
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I completely agree. It definitely helps with prioritization. Yes, and more “chillaxing” to come toward the end of this month.
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I like how Mr. D likes to make lists to feel grounded. I need to do that too, the act of writing something down helps me to feel more in control of my day. That you recognized his need and are helping him manage it is really great!
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In control of your day — well said, Tamara! It’s funny how long it took me to realize that he needed a list but I’m glad I found the magic. Hope you have a great week ahead!
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A wise parent recognizes their kid’s needs! Hope your week is amazing too!
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Mr. D. is a man after my own heart. Even if the item is simple “chill and relax” . . . I love writing that stuff down. Then I can really chill and relax and not worry that I’m forgetting something. Thanks for sharing that reminder Wynne.
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Even better when you make it two items! Great idea, Brian!
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I’m with Mr. D as well, Wynne. I am hyper-organized and wouldn’t be able to function without my phone calendar, which houses all of my plans, events, tasks, etc. for the days ahead. That being said, the best laid plans often go awry, so that calendar becomes even more valuable as I push out or pull in things to do. I love being organized…and being flexible in maintaining that ideal.
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Such a good point about being organized — and flexible, Bruce. I was listening to a fascinating professor (Angus Fletcher) who made the point that the planning is valuable regardless of whether we disregard it the moment our feet hit the floor. It’s all about the envisioning! Thanks for the great comment!
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As a born procrastinator, it took me years to develop the list method. When I can’t sleep, it’s often because I can’t take my mind off of something I need to do. Rather than fixate on it, I get up, write it down, and then permit myself not to think about it until the next day. I often like to start the day by taking one of my least desirable tasks, which immediately makes me feel better after I’ve accomplished it.
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Two incredible approaches, Pete! Thanks for sharing those tips!!
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yes, as Buddha said, if you have compassion for all living things and have none for yourself, then your compassion is incomplete —
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Ah, that’s some great wisdom. Thanks, John!
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Oh my goodness, including “Chillax” on his list – Mr. D is adorable. Can you give him a hug for me? 😊
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I’m smiling, Melanie! He really is! Hug has been delivered!
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Aww, thanks. 😊
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Mr. D is wise, Wynne! “Chillax” is necessary! I make lists too, but sometimes if they’re too long, I get overwhelmed. LOL But it is satisfying to check a task off, and a list keeps us organized.
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Good point about the too long list, Lauren! It is so satisfying, isn’t it? Thanks for the great comment!
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Chillax. I love that Mr. D. is thinking that way, Wynne.
I start every day with a list. Even though I’m not working full time any more, it helps me focus and keep moving forward on my goals. And some days, I’ll write something like “finish reading my book” on the list just so I can have the satisfaction of checking it off the list. I think that’s my equivalent of “chillax”. 😂
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I love that you include finishing books – what a great idea to include the things that matter! Thanks, Michelle!
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I just finished one today. 😀
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It sounds like there is large group of us list-lovers. They are so grounding, keeping us focused on things we should pay attention to. I love that Mr. D. put chillax on his list, he’s obviously very in tune with the idea that we need to put ourselves on the list.
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Yes, a large group of list-lovers. Perfectly said, Rose!
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I love that quote from Clear-it’s so true! As a list person myself, I also have a tendency to question whether the unfinished items were really that important to begin with- usually the answer is no; the priority stuff seems to get done.
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Totally agreed – maybe the “not done” stuff helps us define what really needs to be done. Because you’re right – the important stuff does get done!
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I make lists too, I suppose, but they’re all mental as opposed to the writing-it-down kind. Like, I know what we’re doing this weekend, but haven’t taken pen to paper (or finger to phone) and plotted it all out step-by-step.
One thing I know for sure? “Chillax” is on there too!
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With all the checking off the list for my kids Christmas list I asked for .I think I need a life list for myself.love Mr. D’s word Chillax !
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